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Happiness Experiment No 38: ask for what you need

Asking for what we need may seem on the surface like an easy thing to do but many of us struggle to be honest about what we really need. Brene Brown author of the wonderful book The Gifts of Imperfection, has written about how asking for help can make us feel scared and vulnerable as the person we are asking may say no or may judge us for asking. This moving TED talk by Amanda Palmer about the art of asking shows us that asking for what we need is an skill we can practice. The more we ask for help the easier it becomes, the less vulnerable we feel and the easier it is to make connections.  This is why Happiness Experiment no 38 is to ask for what you need. Give it a try and see what happens.

TED talk by Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 27th April 2015

A Declaration of Courage – Part 2

I am continuing with my month of courage which is part part of a project I am working on for my Masters in Applied Positive Psychology.   Courage is one of the positive psychology interventions (PPIs) I am experimenting with to see how applying this strength can boost my wellbeing.

In researching courage I have learned a great deal from the book by Robert Biswas-Diener called The Courage QuotientRobert Biswas-Diener know as the “Indiana Jones of positive psychology” has travelled far and wide to countries such as Greenland, India, Kenya and Israel to investigate whether courage is a trait we are born with or a skill which can be learned.  He discovered that courage is a culturally desirable trait which can be both measured and learned.  In cultures in which a premium is placed on bravery, it is more likely that parents will focus on teaching their children how to be courageous. In comparison to parenting styles in other … Read the rest...

The Choir With No Name

FEAR

Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is quite small.  He has a vivid imagination.  He composes horror music in the middle of the night.  He is not very social and he keeps himself to himself at political meetings.  His past is a mystery.  He warned us not to talk about him, adding there is nowhere any of us could go where he wouldn’t hear us. We were quiet.  When we began to talk to each other he changed.  His manners started to seem pompous and his snarling voice sounded rehearsed.

Two dragons guard Fear’s mansion.  One is ceramic and Chinese.  The other is real. If you make it past the dragons and speak to him close up, it is amazing how fragile he is.  He will try to tell you stories.  Be aware. He is a master of disguises and illusions. Fear almost convinced me that he was a puppet maker and I was a marionette.

Speak out boldly.  Look him in the eye. Startle him. Don’t give up. Win his respect and he will never bother you with small matters.Read the rest...

Are you in the arena?

THE MAN IN THE ARENA

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. “

Excerpt from the speech “Citizenship In A Republic” by Theodore Roosevelt delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910

 

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Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Brené Brown talking about her new book Daring Greatly.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”  US President Teddy Roosevelt

This quote, taken from a speech by  US President Teddy Roosevelt, is the inspiration behind the title of Brené Brown’s new book Daring Greatly.  I was fortunate to be at the UK launch of her latest book on Monday night… Read the rest...