David Brooks suggests in this short TED talk that within each of us are two selves, the self who craves success, who builds a résumé, and the self who seeks connection, community, love — the values that make for a great eulogy. Can we balance these two selves? Perhaps, once we know them both. We would probably all agree that the things we want to be remembered for, our eulogy virtues are probably not the things we spend the most time thinking about. If we focus more on why we think we are here on this earth and less about what we want to achieve maybe it will be easier to tap in to the virtues which matter most in order to live a good life. If we make each action we take or each thought we think a legacy question it is easier to focus on what matters. I often ask myself before I take action: “Is this really what I want to be remembered for?” If the answer is no, perhaps it is better to make a different choice. Watch this inspiring TED talk… Read the rest...
Asking for what we need may seem on the surface like an easy thing to do but many of us struggle to be honest about what we really need. Brene Brown author of the wonderful book The Gifts of Imperfection, has written about how asking for help can make us feel scared and vulnerable as the person we are asking may say no or may judge us for asking. This moving TED talk by Amanda Palmer about the art of asking shows us that asking for what we need is an skill we can practice. The more we ask for help the easier it becomes, the less vulnerable we feel and the easier it is to make connections. This is why Happiness Experiment no 38 is to ask for what you need. Give it a try and see what happens.
TED talk by Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking
Posted by Shona Lockhart on 27th April 2015