Six Ways to Stop Worrying and Find Work You Love

How To Find Fulfilling Work

Most of us spend the majority of our day at work so it is crucially important that the work that we do makes us feel happy and fullfilled.  This article by Roman Krznaric from Yes magazine, which was originally published in The Huffington Post, looks at 6 ways to stop worrying about what to do to find a fulfilling job and some simple steps we can take to improve our sense of fulfillment at work.  Romans has also written a book on the subject entitled How to Find Fulfilling Work if you would like to read about this topic more.

 

 

Six Ways to Stop Worrying and Find Work You Love

Quitting work that leaves you unfulfilled requires a lot of courage. Here are six things you can do to get yourself ready to take the plunge.
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The idea of fulfilling work—a job that reflects our passions, talents and values—is a modern invention. Open Dr. Johnson’s celebrated Dictionary, published in 1755, and the word “fulfilment” doesn’t even appear. But today our expectations are higher, which helps explain why job satisfaction has declined to a record low of 47 percent in the U.S., and is even lower in Europe.

Instead of thinking then acting, we should act first and reflect later by trying out jobs in the real world.

If you count yourself amongst those who are unhappy in their job, or at least have that occasional niggling feeling that your work and self are out of alignment, how are you supposed to go about finding a meaningful career? What does it take to overcome the fear of change and negotiate the labyrinth of choices, especially in tough economic times?

Here are six pieces of essential wisdom drawn from some of the best brains in the field.

1. Confusion is perfectly normal

First, a consoling thought: being confused about career choice is perfectly normal and utterly understandable. In the pre-industrial period there were around thirty standard trades—you might decide to be a blacksmith or a barrel-maker—but now career websites list over 12,000 different jobs. The result? We can become so anxious about making the wrong choice that we end up making no choice at all, staying in jobs that we have long grown out of. Psychologist Barry Schwartz calls this the “paradox of choice”: too many options can lead to decision paralysis, and we are like rabbits caught in the headlights.

Then add to this our built-in aversion to risk. Human beings tend to exaggerate everything that could possibly go wrong, or as Nobel Prize winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman says, “we hate losing twice as much as we love winning,” whether at the casino table or when making career choices. So our brains are not well calibrated for daring to change profession. We need to recognize that confusion is natural, and get ready to move beyond it.

2. Beware of personality tests

Many people are enticed by personality tests, which claim to be able to assess your character, and then point you towards a job that is just right for you. It’s a reassuring idea, but the evidence for their usefulness is flimsy. Take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, the world’s most popular psychometric test, which places you in one of sixteen personality types. Despite its ubiquity, the Myers-Briggs has been widely criticised by professional psychologists for over three decades, partly due to its lack of reliability. If you retake the test after five weeks, there is around a 50 percent chance that you will be placed into a different personality category than you were the first time.

Moreover, according to Marshall University psychologist David Pittenger, there is “ no evidence to show a positive relation between [a person’s Myers-Briggs] type and success within an occupation…nor is there any data to suggest that specific types are more satisfied within specific occupations than are other types.” He advises “extreme caution in its application as a counselling tool.”

So don’t let any anyone tell you what you can and can’t be on the basis of a personality pigeon-hole they want to put you in.

3. Aim to be a wide achiever, not a high achiever

For over a century, Western culture has been telling us that the best way to use our talents and be successful is to specialize and become a high achiever, an expert in a narrow field—say a corporate tax accountant or an anesthetist.

But an increasing number of people feel that this approach fails to cultivate the many sides of who they are. For them, it makes more sense to embrace the idea of being a “wide achiever” rather than a high achiever. Take inspiration from Renaissance generalists like Leonardo da Vinci, who would paint one day, then do some mechanical engineering, followed by a few anatomy experiments on the weekend.

Today this is called being a “portfolio worker,” doing several jobs simultaneously and often freelance. Management thinker Charles Handy says this is not just a good way of spreading risk in an insecure job market, but is an extraordinary opportunity made possible by the rise of opportunities for flexible work: “For the first time in the human experience, we have a chance to shape our work to suit the way we live instead of our lives to fit our work. We would be mad to miss the chance.”

Ask yourself this: What would being a wide achiever encompass for me?

4. Find where you values and talents meet

The wisest single piece of career advice was proffered 2,500 years ago when Aristotle declared, “Where the needs of the world and your talents cross, there lies your vocation.” And he would surely endorse contemporary research findings showing that those pursuing money and status are unlikely to feel fulfilled: the Mercer Global Engagement Scale places “base pay” as only number seven out of 12 factors predicting job satisfaction.

The best alternative, says Harvard’s Howard Gardner, is to find an ethical career, focused on values and issues that matter to you, and which also allows you to do what you’re really good at. That might sound like a luxury when there are long lines at job centers. But consider that in the 34 countries of the Organization for Economic Co-Operation and Development, the social enterprise sector, in which organizations strive not only to make profits but also to improve social and environmental conditions,is growing 250 percent faster than the rest of the economy.

So imagine yourself in three parallel universes, in each of which you can spend next year trying a job in which your talents meet the needs of the world. What three jobs would you be excited to try?

5. Act first, reflect later

The biggest mistake people make when changing careers is to follow the traditional “plan then implement” model. You draw up lists of personal strengths, weaknesses, and ambitions, then match your profile to particular professions; at that point you start sending out applications. But there’s a problem: it typically doesn’t work. You might find a new job, but despite your expectations, it is unlikely to be fulfilling.

Ask successful career changers how to overcome the fear and most say that in the end you have to stop thinking and just do it.

We need to turn this model on its head. As I explain in thisvideo, instead of thinking then acting, we should act first and reflect later by trying out jobs in the real world, for example by shadowing, interning, or volunteering, testing out careers through experiential learning. Laura van Bouchout gave herself the thirtieth birthday present of spending a whole year trying thirty different jobs—a kind of “radical sabbatical.” She was manager of a cat hotel, then shadowed an Member of the European Parliament, and found that working in advertising was unexpectedly exhilarating.

But don’t think that you have to resign on Monday morning to try this. Rather, you can pursue “branching projects”—what organisational behaviour expert Herminia Ibarra calls “temporary assignments”—on the side of your existing job. Disenchanted with banking? Then try teaching yoga or doing freelance web design on the weekends. Such small experiments can give you the courage to make big—and well-informed—changes.

Challenge yourself: What is your first branching project going to be? And what is the very first step you can take towards making it happen?

6. Discover a little madness

Changing careers is a frightening prospect: of those who want to leave their jobs, around half are too afraid to take the plunge. But ultimately, there is no avoiding the fact that it is a risk.

Ask successful career changers how to overcome the fear and most say the same thing: in the end you have to stop thinking and just do it. That may be why nearly all cultures have recognized that to live a meaningful and vibrant existence, we need to take some chances—or else we might end up looking back on our lives with regret.

“Carpe diem,” advised the Roman poet Horace: seize the day before it is too late. “If not now, when?” said the rabbinical sage Hillel the Elder. Personally, I like the way Zorba the Greek puts it: “A man needs a little madness, or else he never dares to cut the rope and be free.”

It is only by treating our working lives as an ongoing experiment that we will be able to find a job that is big enough for our spirits.

Roman Krznaric speaking at The School of Life

Roman Krznaric is the author of How to Find Fulfilling Work, published by Picador on April 23, and teaches courses on career change at The School of Life. His website is www.romankrznaric.com.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 7th May 2013

Happiness at any age: Mattering never stops mattering whatever your age

This article from The Good Life Blog in Pyschology Today was written by Christopher Peterson, who was a professor of psychology and organizational studies and former director of clinical training.at the University of Michigan.  He held the appointment of Arthur F. Thurnau Professor, in recognition of his contributions to teaching. Peterson was among the 100 most widely cited psychologists in the world. He died at a tragically young age last year and according to all who knew him he mattered a lot to many people.  His book Pursuing the Good Life: 100 Reflections in Positive Psychology which is a compilation of his articles  from The Good Life Blog in Pyschology Today is well worth reading.

How Old Is Old?

Mattering never stops mattering.

 

Published on May 30, 2011 by Christopher Peterson, Ph.D. in The Good Life

I hope I die before I get old.

- “My Generation” by The Who (1965)

I recently led a workshop for mental health professionals, and in the ensuing question and answer period, someone referred to 60-year-old adults as old. Given that I am recently on the other side of sixty, I was taken aback and immediately protested. “No, no, no – sixty is middle-aged,” I said. Indeed, for the past few decades, I have always described middle-aged as however old I happen to be, plus or minus five years.

Our exchange was light-hearted, but there are some interesting issues that it highlights. Given that the populations in most industrialized nations are aging and given trends toward increased longevity in these nations, the question “How old is old?” deserves to be addressed with more than banter.

By a coincidence, right after the workshop, I heard a BBC radio show that addressed precisely the question “How old is old?” by discussing recent survey results from different nations (e.g., The Nielsen Company, 2011). People of course differ in how they answer this question, and not surprisingly, the younger someone is, the younger he or she sees “old” to be. Furthermore, about one third of those from “older” nations say that one only becomes “old” if over 80 years of age, whereas fewer than 1% of those from “younger” nations use 80 years of age as the cutoff. I guess I’ll stay put in the United States for the duration!

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Developmental psychologists have long made distinctions among life stages based on age. For example:

 

• Infancy (birth to 2 years)

• Chikdhood (3-12 years)

• Adolescence(13-19 years)

• Young adulthood (20-29 years)

• Adulthood (30-39 years)

• Middle Age (40-54 years)

• Old age (55+ years)

This is just one scheme, and many others exist. Some theorists add in new stages (e.g., tweens, the old old), and others expand the age ranges of one or more of these stages (e.g., if one pursues higher education, adolescence arguably stretches far into one’s twenties or even one’s thirties). There are no consensual answers, of course, because identifying stages of life in terms of chronological age tries to make categories out of a continuum and moreover ignores individual psychological differences among those of the same chronological age. We all know “young” sixty-year olds, and “old” twenty-year olds.

That said, changes with age can and do occur – biological, psychological, and social – making it reasonable to offer at least rough generalizations across the lifespan. “Act your age!” is an admonition based on assumptions that have some grounding in chronological reality. So, we expect adults to be more responsible than children, if only because adulthood is when most people are working and raising children of their own.

However, we should also recognize that “old” is a shifting and fuzzy designation. We should be cautious – as individuals or as a society – in imposing a uniform cutoff on ourselves or others with respect to what one can or should do when of a certain age.

And perhaps the positive psychology take home message of this entry is that what may matter is not “how old is old” but rather how one feels about being “old” (or middle-aged or young). An important line of research by Becca Levy at Yale University shows that younger adults with more positive attitudes toward aging are healthier when they do become older adults, even when the usual risk factors for poor heath are statistically controlled.

It is a cliché to observe that the contemporary US is a youth-oriented culture, and I exemplified this attitude with the anecdote that began this essay. As a 60-year old, I do not want to be regarded as “old” because our society does not take older people seriously. Until society changes, perhaps I should change myself and recognize that the best way to be taken seriously, regardless of one’s chronological age, is to matter to others. The way one matters will differ as a function of age, of course, but mattering never stops mattering.

References

Levy, B.R., Slade, M. D., & Kasl, S. V. (2002). Longitudinal benefit of positive self-perceptions of aging on functioning health. Journal of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences, 57, 409-417.

Levy, B. R., Slade, M. D., Kunkel, S. R., and Kasl, S. V. (2002). Longevity increased by positive self-perceptions of aging. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83, 261-270.

Levy, B. R., Zonderman, A. B., Slade, M. D., & Ferrucci, L. (2009). Age stereotypes held earlier in life predict cardiovascular events in later Life.Psychological Science, 20, 296-298.

The Nielsen Company (2011). The global impact of an aging world. New York: author.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 6th May 2013

 

 

 

Happiness at any age: Why do we age and what we can do to avoid it?

If we can be happy at any age is it worthwhile trying to avoid aging?  Is aging something we can simply fix? Aubrey de Grey makes an impassioned plea for ending the aging process. Watch his TED talk and decide if you agree with his provocative stance on aging.

Aubrey de Grey: A roadmap to end aging

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 6th May 2013

 

 

 

 

Happiness at any age: Older people are happier

Want to live to a ripe old age?  Having a positive outlook on life maybe the key to doing just that. The article below from CBS News looks at how optimism can lead to longevity.  The TEDxWomen talk below by psychologist Laura Carstensen shows that not only does being optimistic make you live longer, but research shows that you also become happier and more content as you get older and are likely to have a more positive outlook on the world.  Living to an old age does not mean that your quality of life has to diminish, on the contrary it is likely to increase.  Enjoy the article and the video and let me know what you think.

 

Researchers discover optimism may lead to longevity

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(CBS News) The secret to a long life may be something as simple as a sunny disposition.

In a study published in the journal Aging on May 21, researchers surveyed people who were over the age of 95 and found that most of them had positive personality traits, making them upbeat and relaxed about life. That suggests personality traits such optimism could be part of the longevity genes mix, they said.

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“When I started working with centenarians, I thought we’d find that they survived so long in part because they were mean and ornery,” Dr. Nir Barzila, the Ingeborg and Ira Leon Rennert Chair of Aging Research, and director of Einstein’s Institute for Aging Research, said in the press release. “But when we assessed the personalities of these 243 centenarians, we found qualities that clearly reflect a positive attitude towards life. Most were outgoing, optimistic and easygoing. They considered laughter an important part of life and had a large social network. They expressed emotions openly rather than bottling them up.”

The study is part of Albert Einstein College of Medicine’s Longevity Genes Project, which specifically looks at aging. Over 500 Ashkenazi Jews over the age of 95 along with 700 of their offspring have been involved in the project.

According to the researchers, approximately 53,000 people in the U.S. are over 100 years old, which accounts for 0.2 percent of the population. But, the number of people reaching 100 from America has increased 8 percent per year.

For this particular study, 243 Ashkenazi (Eastern European) Jews over the age of 95 were given a 98-point questionnaire that specifically looked at personality traits. Three-fourths of the group were women, and the average age was 97.6 years old. Since they were all the same ethnicity, it allowed researchers to compare results from a similar genetic pool.

What scientists found out was that many of the near-centenarians were optimistic, easygoing, liked to laughed and were outgoing than introverted. They also were more likely to express their emotions, rather than keeping it all inside.

Dr. Thomas Perls, director of the New England Centenarian Study at Boston University Medical Center, told HealthDay that the results about expressing how they felt were in line with several previous studies. One of Perls studies showed that those who were highly neurotic tended to dwell on things and internalize their stress.

“This can translate into increased risk for cardiovascular disease,” he said to HealthDay. “High extroversion may lead to a better ability to establish social support networks — which is very good for older people – and to be cognitively engaged.”

Perls suggested that activities like physical exercise, yoga, tai chi and laughing a lot could help relieve tension. Also, sleeping was shown to have some beneficial effect.

The good news is that if you aren’t exactly that ray of sunshine, you still have time to change. Barzilai said that some evidence shows that people can change their attitudes between the ages of 70 to 100, and it isn’t exactly know if the subjects were always optimistic their entire lives.

“Nevertheless, our findings suggest that centenarians share particular personality traits and that genetically-based aspects of personality may play an important role in achieving both good health and exceptional longevity,” he said in the press release.

Article originally published in CBS News on 30th May 2012

“When we recognize that we don’t have all the time in the world, we see our priorities most clearly.” Laura Carstensen

 

Laura Carstensen – TEDx Women talk

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 4th May 2013

 

Happiness at any age: Jane Fonda – Life’s third act

The longevity revolution: within this generation, an extra 30 years have been added to our life expectancy — and these years aren’t just a footnote or a pathology. At TEDxWomen, Jane Fonda asks how we can think about this new phase of our lives.  Her TEDx talk looks at the third act of life and asks how can we be happy in the last 30 years of our life.

Less is more: a week of living below the poverty line

This week in support of my husband, and possibly against my better judgement, I decided to spend  5 days living below the poverty line spending just £1 per day on all food and drink.  This challenge to Live below the line has been set up to to support many UK and international charities who focus on helping to make a real change in the lives of the 1.4 billion people, both here and around the world, who are currently living in extreme poverty. I became aware of and hugely inspired by the blog: A Girl Called Jack and decided to take up the challenge for just 5 days.Take a look at Hugh Jackman’s invitation to take up the challenge:

I chose to spend the week living below the line in order to support the work of Progressio, an international development charity which my husband is proud to work for.  There was a part of me which felt that this was a bit of an exercise in “playing at being poor” à la Marie-Antoinette who famously said about the starving masses during the French Revolution “If they can’t eat bread, let them eat cake”.  In all honesty this was probably the part of me who didn’t much fancy the prospect of living on a restricted diet for a week.  The other part of me, who is definitely not as out of touch with reality as Marie Antoinette was, likes a challenge and is accutely aware that those of us who do not live below the poverty line on a permanent basis are very privileged indeed.  I have always believed in the concept of walking a mile in another person’s shoes, in order to understand their lives and motivations so I grasped the challenge despite my initial reluctance.

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So here I am on day 5, just two meals away from a decent breakfast on Saturday morning.  What have I learned from the challenge? I’ve learned a lot actually and much of it is in alignment with what positive psychology teaches us about living a meaningful life:

I have learned to be hugely grateful for what I have and I will really relish the opportunity and the possibility of choosing any food I want to eat in future.

I have learned to show more empathy with people who live in different circumstances to my own.

I have become more aware of the interconnectedness of people and how food choices we make have repercussions for others.

I have reminded myself of the importance of practising acts of kindness for others.

I have become more aware of the simple pleasures in life such as eating home-prepared food.

I have practised mindfulness and savouring which are principles of positive psychology which teach us how to enjoy the moment. (When you can only afford one carrot or one egg a day you really enjoy them.)

I have had to fall back on using my top strengths (creativity is one of mine) in order to manage on such a small budget.

I have realised that it is much easier and quicker to change a habit that I had previously thought.

What have I learned about myself?

I have realised that our household is hugely wasteful of food and this needs to change.

In order to survive on a tight budget you need to be really well organised and highly creative and these are two great skills to practice.

We need to plan our menus and food purchases more in order to cut down on waste. To use a wonderful acronym I came across on Twitter via Philippa Perry yesterday: PPPPPPP. ( Proper Pre-Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance) @Philippa-Perry

I have decided to rediscover the joys and benefits of cheap home made food next week by making my own bread, growing my own bean sprouts and drying my own fruits. I may even knit my own muesli if I’m feeling particularly creative……

I made a last minute decision to join the live below the line campaign and admittedly wasn’t as organised as I could have been for the 5 days.  This meant that my diet this week has lacked variety and that has been the toughest challenge.  Many people around the world and in the UK face a monotonous diet on a regular basis because that is all this is available to them.  This week may have been challenging but I didn’t die, I had 3 meals a day and I had plenty of clean water to drink. That’s more than can be said for the 1.4 billion people around the world who don’t have the ability to make the same choices I can.  Was I crazy to take up this challenge?  Probably not. I have learned a huge amount this week and here’s the crazy part: I have decided to continue the challenge!  I have decided to #liveslightlyabovetheline for the next month adding £1 a week to my weekly budget until I reach a point where I believe my diet is both healthy and sustainable for the planet.  I am looking forward to more colour in my diet next week and £2 per day for 5 days will feel like absolute luxury.  I think I know of 1.4 billion people to whom £2 per day would feel like absolute luxury too and that is why is has been important to live below the line this week.  If you didn’t join in the challenge this week, it’s not too late you can do this on any 5 days you choose.  It’s a great experience and it’s never too late to make a difference. Also blueberries for breakfast on a Saturday will never taste the same again.

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 3rd May 2013

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happiness at any age: 91 year old water skier

Happiness is not just for the young – you can be happy and live a fulfilled life at any age.  If you have a passion and devote time and energy to pursuing something you love you can be happy at any age.  Edith McAlllister is a wonderful example of someone who is not prepared to let her age get in the way of following her passion.  She is an inspiration.  Enjoy the video.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 2nd May 2013

Happiness at work: Applied Happiness

This great TEDxKC talk by Jenn Lim the CEO and Chief Happiness Officer of Delivering Happiness a company she and Tony Hsieh (CEO of Zappos) co-created to inspire happiness in work, community and everyday life.

Zappos.com built a  hugely successful brand and company through outstanding customer service and an unusual company culture, but even more inspiring is the fact that they succeeded in doing this by using happiness as a business model. Drawn by the notion that anyone can apply the science of happiness to work, communities and our everyday lives, happiness has become the organizing principle behind a new business and now, a movement.  Watch her fascinating TED talk and decide for yourself if she is worth listening to.

 

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 1st May 2013

The link between happiness and resilience: 10 ways to build resilience

Building our resilience is a tried and tested method within positive psychology for improving our general well-being and happiness.  Our ability to bounce back from life’s curve balls rather than sinking in to overwhelm is a crucial part of your happiness toolkit.

According to a recent study, resilience in the face of adversity could be a characteristic of someone who is truly satisfied with his or her life. Researchers from the Universitat Autonoma de Barcelona found that people who are more resilient are also more likely to report high life satisfaction and control over emotions. Their work was published in the journal Behavioral Psychology. The study was conducted on 254 students at the university, who were asked to fill out questionnaires.

“Some of the characteristics of being resilient can be worked on and improved, such as self-esteem and being able to regulate one’s emotions,” study researcher Dr. Joaquin T. Limonero, a professor at the university, said in a statement. “Learning these techniques can offer people the resources needed to help them adapt and improve their quality of life.”

According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is important for dealing with hardships, and can be learned and developed. Factors that go into resilience include being able to manage impulses and feelings, looking at yourself positively, making realistic plans and goals and communicating and solving problems.

For more information on the road to resilience, take a look at the recommendations of the APA  who have some great tips on building resilience.

 

 

10 Ways to build resilience

Make connections. Good relationships with close family members, friends, or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.

Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”

Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.

Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and heightened appreciation for life.

Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.

Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.

Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.

Additional ways of strengthening resilience may be helpful. For example, some people write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.

The key is to identify ways that are likely to work well for you as part of your own personal strategy for fostering resilience.

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 31st April 2013.

Based on an original article in the Huffington post