On The Happiness Experiment bookshelf: my 20 favourite books from 2012

It’s the time of year when Best of… lists proliferate, so not to be outdone I have decided to create my own.  This is a very personal list of books which have helped me on my happiness journey, the majority of the books were newly published this year but some were just new to me.  I have listed them in no particular order of preference as I think all are of merit and it would be difficult to choose one over another.  It is very difficult to narrow the list down to just 20 as there are many more I could have included, but in the true spirit of Best of… list making I have been strict with myself.  Please let me know if there are any wonderful new books which have escaped my attention and which you think I should have included on this list.  Which books would your top 20 include?

1. Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking by Susan Cain

Susan Cain’s TED talk entitled The Power of Introverts and her book Quiet have taken the world by storm in 2012 becoming an international best seller and voted No 1 on the list of best business books by Fast Company.

“Any time people come together in a meeting, we’re not necessarily getting the best ideas, we’re just getting the ideas of the best talkers.”

Watch Susan’s TED talk below and check out her website here.

2. Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

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I was fortunate to attend the UK launch event for Brené Brown’s latest book Daring Greatly which was organised by The School of Life at Conway Hall in London.  The book is a fascinating follow on to her work on vulnerability and Brené was just as inspiring in person as she appeared in her now famous TED talks.  If you would like to learn more about Brené Brown’s research you can check out her website here.

Brené Brown talking about her new book Daring Greatly

3. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do, and How to Change by Charles Duhigg

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This is a fascinating book on how to change habits. Many books have been written on this subject but this is one of the best ones I have read.  You can watch Charles being interviewed about his book here:

Charles Duhigg being interviewed by Jonathan Fields

4. How to change the world by John-Paul Flintoff

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One of my favourite quotes (you may be aware by now that I am a bit of a quote geek) is this one:

“In the power to change yourself is the power to change the world around you.” Anwar Sadat.

This very readable book by John-Paul Flintoff shows you how to do both by helping you to avoid sinking in overwhelm and to think of small practical changes you can implement to make the world a better place. Below is a short video clip in which John-Paul talks about his book.  If you would like to watch the full length video from The School of Life click here.

 

5. Flex: do something different by Karen J. Pine and Ben C. Fletcher

I attended the Meaning conference in Brighton this year and one of the speakers was psychologist Karen Pine who co-wrote Flex with her husband Ben Fletcher. Flex is a really interesting read and contains many innovative ideas for changing behaviour. You can  watch Karen’s talk here:

 

6. Rainy Brain, Sunny Brain: The New Science of Optimism and Pessimism by Elaine Fox

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It has always fascinated me why some people appear to be incurable optimists no matter what life throws at them whilst some are hardened pessimists despite the many positive things in their life.  Elaine Fox‘s book Rainy Brain, Sunny Brain gives a fascinating scientific explanatation for our differences in outlook and illustrates how we can change our disposition.

Elaine Fox talking about her research.

7. Philosophy for life by Jules Evans

This book Philosophy for Life is a brilliant introduction to how philosophy can improve our lives and has convinced me that philosophy needs to be part of our happiness toolkit. It has been no 1 in Amazon.co.uk’s philosophy chart, a Guardian Books bestseller and has been published in 15 countries.  Even if you think that philosophy is not your bag I urge you to try it.

 

8. Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance by Jonathan Fields

I have recently become a huge fan of Jonathan Field’s blog and in particular of his Good Life Project website in which he conducts interviews with some remarkable people.  The video below features Jonathan Fields talking about his book Uncertainty and how he gave up a corporate career as a lawyer to set up a yoga studio, signing a lease in New York a day before the terrorist attack on the city.  Jonathan’s book explores how we deal with uncertainty and how we can learn not only to embrace it but to thrive with it – it is a fascinating read.

9. Happier at Home by Gretchen Rubin

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Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project has become a world wide best seller.  Her follow up book Happier at Home uses the same principle of trying out a new happiness theory on a month by month basis but this time the focus is specifically on the home.  The success of Gretchen’s books are based on the fact that she is willing to put happiness theories to test and to recount her own personal experiences of what has worked for her and what hasn’t.  She does not claim that what works for her will work for everyone but her personal narrative strikes a chord with many people.

 

Gretchen Rubin: Happier at Home

 

 

10. How to Stay Sane: The School of Life by Philippa Perry

I attended a 5×15 event this year and psychotherapist Philippa Perry gave one of the talks.  She talked a lot of sense and her book How To Stay Sane does too.  If you would like to watch a video of Philippa talking at a School of Life event click here.

11. Rip It Up: The radically new approach to changing your life by Richard Wiseman

I have previously enjoyed reading and putting in to practice the teachings of Richard Wiseman’s previous books such as The Luck Factor and 59 Seconds so I was pleased when the publication of a new book was announced.  This short video introduces the “As if” principle which is covered in the book.  Rip it Up is a very entertaining and practical read with some useful tips for making changes in your life.

 

12. Screw Work Let’s Play by John Williams

Screw Work Let’s Play is a brilliant book which encourages people to take their ideas seriously and to focus on getting paid for “playing” rather than working.  Reading this book and taking part in the 30 Day Challenge which John Williams runs together with coach Selina Barker helped me to “give birth” to The Happiness Experiment blog which I have been writing since I started the challenge in May.  If you have any ideas lurking away and would like to bring them to fruition I recommend that you give this book a try.  In the video below John Williams interviews Selina Barker about her own very exciting “play project”.

 

 

13. Religion for Atheists: A non-believer’s guide to the uses of religion by Alain de Botton

Positive psychology teaches us that people who are part of religious communities are more likely to be happier than people who are not. However if you hold no particular religious belief what should you do?  Alain de Botton’s book Religion for Atheists has the answer: cherry pick the best aspects of religion and introduce them in to your life.  The RSA talk below gives you an insight in to his thinking.  It’s an interesting, well argued book and his ideas are worth considering.

 

 

14. Always Looking Up by Michael J. Fox

Michael J. Fox is one of life’s irrepressible optimists as described in Elaine Fox’s Rainy Brain, Sunny Brain.  This autobiography is a very uplifting read in which Michael J. Fox recounts why despite a diagnosis of Parkinson’s disease at the very young age of 29 he thinks he is the luckiest person in the world. His interview in the video below tells you more but I urge you to buy and read his book.

 

15. World book of happiness by Leo Bormans and Miriam Akhtar

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In this book the top 100 researchers from all over the world share what they know about happiness.  This book is a great resource with articles on a broad range of happiness related topics.  The book has been sent to 52 world leaders by the head of the European Union – I hope they read it and take head.

Video of Leo Bormans giving a talk at an Action for Happiness event.  Video by Sunny Times

16. The Optimism Bias by Tali Sharot

I attended the TEDX Observer event in London this year and Tali Sharot was one of the speakers at the event.  Her book on why we are wired to look on the bright side of life makes very interesting reading.  If you would like to watch her fascinating TED talk here it is:

17. Positive Psychology (Introducing a Practical Guide) by Bridget Grenville-Cleave

This book is a really great primer in positive psychology covering 20 key concepts and with real life examples.  It is one of the best and most easily accessible introductions to positive psychology around and a very practical book.  If you would like to learn more about the author check out her website here.

18. Strengthsfinder 2.0 by Tom Rath

Learning to appreciate and work with your strengths rather than focusing primarily on your weeknesses is one of the most important lessons I have learned from positive psychology this year.  This book by Tom Rath teaches you how to recognise your strengths using a simple test online.  It is worth taking the test and the results might surprise you. The video below featuring Tom Rath is a great illustration of the strengths theory.

19. The art of non conformity – Chris Guillebeau

This book by Chris Guillebeau is basically the story of how you can choose to live exactly the life you want.  If you don’t believe this is possible read Chris’ fascinating book and be prepared to change your mind.  Watch the interview with Chris below to learn more:

Interview with Chris Guillebeau and Jonathan Fields from The Good Life project

 

20. The Bounce Back Book by Karen Salmansohn

While I was carrying out some research on resilience I came across The Bounce Back book written by Karen Salmansohn after she had been subjected to an assault.  It includes all the practical lessons she had to learn and apply in her own life to recover from her attack and is a really useful book on the subject of resilience.  Her interview with Jonathan Fields in the video below talks about the many positive psychology projects she has become involved in – her story is very inspiring.

 Karen Salmansohn interviewed by Jonathan Fields on The Good Life project.

My list could continue but I will end it here.  Please let me know if I have missed out any really great books from 2012 and I will add them to my reading list for next year. I appreciate that not everyone has the time to sit down and read these books so I have included video clips of the authors where these are available so you can learn about them at your leisure. Enjoy!

Posted by Shona Lockhart, 27th November 2012

 

 

 

 

 

Happy – The Movie

I missed the launch of Happy, the documentary film by Academy Award nominated director Roko Belic (Genghis Blues), when it was launched in the UK some months ago at an Action for Happiness event.  This award winning documentary travels around the world looking at what makes people happy.

The organisation Students for Happiness will be screening The Happy Movie on Wednesday 21st November at The Bloomsbury Theatre in London. A ticket costs just £8 and any profits will be donated to the charity Mind. Watch the trailer and decide for yourself whether you want to go along. It will probably be £8 well spent.  Click here to buy a ticket.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart, 5th November 2012

Resilience: Giles Duley – becoming the story

Continuing with the subject of resilience, I was fortunate to attend the TEDxObserver event earlier this year –  an inspiring day of stories and ideas.  One of the most unforgettable speakers at the event was Giles Duley, who told the story of how his life as a photographer had changed from taking pictures of models, to taking pictures of people with personal stories to eventually becoming part of the story himself.  Giles is an amazing example of someone with a strong resilient spirit and a belief that we can all use our talents and gifts to make a difference. Listen to his story and be inspired:

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart, 30th October 2012

Why is listening to your inner accountant not a route to happiness?

I was fortunate to meet creativity guru Julia Cameron in London at the weekend. She was running a two day creativity workshop with Alternatives based on her book the Artist’s Way.  It was a wonderful experience to meet her in person and to meet other “closet creatives” who have found the book a useful way to unleash a little more of their creativity.  It was interesting to note at a workshop of over 100 people that many people share the same obstacles to creativity such as lack of belief in our own creative abilities, too many other pressures on our time, listening to our inner critic, lack of inspiration etc. etc…………

One of the participants made the very funny statement:  ”My problem is not so much that I have an inner critic, it’s more that I have an inner accountant!” Many of the participants could relate to this comment and it is with this obstacle in mind that Julia Cameron has written her latest book called The prosperous heart: creating a life of ‘enough’ together with her business manager Emma Lively, which I have just purchased since the weekend.  I  have found the 12 week programme of the Artist’s Way a very helpful format and this new book follows the same 12 step format.  I have always believed that everyone lies somewhere along the creativity spectrum and we can all learn to express our creativity in different ways. If you listen to your inner accountant too often, you are denying yourself the chance of finding the flow and happiness which come from being utterly absorbed in a creative pursuit.

If you were unable to see Julia Cameron in person at the weekend please take a look at this great article and interview by Julie Hall from Women Unlimited.  

The interview is part of a great new series on Women Unlimited TV in which Julie Hall conducts interviews with inspiring women – they are worth checking out.  Enjoy the article and interview: 

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Julie Hall interviewing Julia Cameron

 

Julia Cameron is the author of the Artist’s Way. Written 20 years ago, it is the defining book for those interested in exploring their creativity.  It’s estimated that over 4 million people have read the book  and Julia still teaches the 12 week programme in her home town of Santa Fe.   You can find out more about Julia and her new programme at www.juliacameronlive.com 

The inspiration for the book was Julia’s boyfriend (now husband!). He was a writer but he was blocked and having problems writing. She wrote the book to help him overcome this creative block.

Overcoming creative blocks

Although Julia never had writers block, she found that she wasn’t writing freely either. She was conscious of striving for perfection during the writing process. She was also drinking to try and enable her to write more freely but found that writing and drinking don’t mix. Alcohol opened a window then slammed it shut.

She found it better to write without alcohol. She also stopped trying to ‘control’ the writing so her work would be without ego. This enabled her to be an open tool for inspiration and writing to move through her.

Morning pages

Morning pages are a tool to help you unblock your creativity. Julia calls them a western version of meditation.  Every morning spend 20 minutes writing your thoughts down – write down whatever comes into your head/you are thinking about.

The benefits of doing morning pages are that you will release any thoughts/problems you are holding inside. It also helps to miniaturise your inner sensor (which is usually your negative internal voice), then enable you to ignore it as you keep writing. This then becomes a transportable life skill which can be used anywhere and in any situation. Nobody can be fearless, but you can be taught to push past it. Morning pages will help you to do this.

Why is creativity important in business?

Everyone can be creative. Traditionally, artists have talked of ideas/inspiration coming straight from God. We don’t tend to say that so much these days but that is an artist’s experience of inspiration – a higher power striving to get our ideas out to the world

The ideas and tools raised in the book also work for business people. Business is a creative arena and using morning pages gives you a safe place to vent issues and frustration and gives you the opportunity to explore ideas.

Other tools to help open up creativity:

Artists Date

You should try to go on an ‘artist’s date’ once a week. It’s a solo expedition to do something fun and enchanting. Your morning pages will help you to recognise your like’s and dislikes, as well as those things/activities you want to do more or less of.

When you go on an Artists Date you enable yourself to turn the dial to help you receive inspiration and  you’ll find that your synchronicity improves too.

An artist’s date could be something simple like a visit to a children’s bookstore, fabric store or a meal in a new restaurant.  You don’t have to expose yourself to art. You can get inspiration from any environment.

Don’t work at it – it should be enjoyable. The idea is plan ahead of time and woo yourself, so that you learn to love yourself a bit more.

Walking

Walking is an enormously powerful tool and helps people to integrate the inspiration gained from morning pages and the artist’s date. You can literally get into the body through walking.

Walk at least twice a week for 20 minutes. You’ll often find that you set out with a problem but come back with a solution.

Explore your own creativity

Julia has just launched a new website: www.juliacameronlive.com  which is for people who can’t study with Julie personally and covers her 12 week programme.

Filmed in her home the programme includes video lessons, a forum and a vibrant community.  A broad mix of people are involved, as anyone’s life can become enlivened by embracing the creative side of themselves.  Her course/book is about transition –everyone tells her that the book has changed their life.

For those who say creativity isn’t important Julia thinks this is what people tell themselves to talk themselves out of their dreams.   There are enormous benefits to tapping into your own creativity – it makes people more cheerful and literally enlightened, as if they have been lit up from inside

Julia’s main tips for exploring creativity are to do your morning pages regularly. Surprisingly, she also suggests accounting! Not the most creative activity you might think, but money should be channelled to your greatest joys. To ensure you have enough money, don’t spend blindly.  Simple accounting will highlight where you are spending your money. For example, you love the theatre but never have enough money. Your accounting may show that you are spending £4 a day in Starbucks. Forgo that coffee and save the money for a theatre ticket.

Prosperous Heart

Julia’s new book with Emma Lively is about individuals who depend on a sense of abundance with a connection to the divine and not with a paycheck. This 12 week programme helps people to explore their feelings towards debt, money and abundance.

Thank you to Julie Hall from Women Unlimited for permission to publish this article and interview.

Posted on 2nd November 2012

 

 

How to make a difference

How to make a difference [15 November 2012]

Have you ever wondered how you can change the world? Can anything which you as an individual do actually make a difference?  I firmly believe that individuals can and do make a difference and am currently reading “How to change the World” by John-Paul Flintoff which is full of practical ideas and stories about doing just that.  The book reminded me of a story in the Star Thrower – a book by philospher, Loren Eiseley.  It is better known as the starfish thrower and was made into a children’s story called Sara and the Starfish. The story goes as follows:

An old man had a habit of early morning walks on the beach. One day, after a storm, he saw a human figure in the distance moving like a dancer. As he came closer he saw that it was a young woman and she was not dancing but was reaching down to the sand, picking up a starfish and very gently throwing them into the ocean.

“Young lady,” he asked, “Why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?”

“The sun is up, and the tide is going out, and if I do not throw them in they will die.”

“But young lady, do you not realize that there are miles and miles of beach and starfish all along it? You cannot possibly make a difference.”

The young woman listened politely, paused and then bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the sea, past the breaking waves, saying, “It made a difference for that one.”

If you would like to learn how to become a starfish thrower you might want to check out the event below which Jean-Paul Flintoff will be running at The School of Life on Thursday 15th November 2012.  The course description states:

HOW TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE:

“Today, increasing numbers of people are seeking to impact the world around them, becoming change agents at a local or global level.  If you want to start making a difference, how can you get to join this wave?

By the law of inertia, we tend to remain passive.  Yet inspiring examples of change agents are all around us – from the retired social worker picking up rubbish in his hometown to the social entrepreneur building schools for girls in Afghanistan.  As we too identify our personal values and desired level of social engagement, we can focus our passion for a cause.

In this class, we also examine cultural and social resistance we may encounter in innovating new solutions – and look at how we might overcome this.  And we address the fact that seeking to make a difference involves carrying others with us.  Drawing on the strategies of tacticians in community action, we learn how to attract support and impact the system.

Whether you want to make a difference to address an urgent social need or for personal meaning and purpose, this course aims to provide inspiration, a healthy dose of realism, and the practical tools to impact the world around you.”

My suspicion is that you have probably always had a secret desire to become a starfish thrower in some form or other but didn’t know where to start.  The How to make a difference  course might well be a good starting point for you – go on you know you want to.

Posted by Shona  Lockhart, 1st November 2012