A Life Worth Living: Andy Cope

This is the first in a regular series of interviews looking at the approach different people take to creating A Life Worth Living.  This interview is with Andy Cope, author of a number of books including The Art of Being Brilliant and The Art of Being a Brilliant Teacher.   Andy is currently studying for a PhD in “Happiness” and delivers workshops and seminars via his company The Art of Brilliance. Enjoy the interview.

Andy Cope

Andy Cope

1.  What prompted you to write your book “The Art of Being Brilliant” and who is it aimed at? What has been the response to your book?

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The Art of Being Brilliant’ is basically all the best bits from my PhD research. I’’ve been studying ‘happiness’ and ‘flourishing’ (basically, I’’ve been seeking out happy people and bottling their secrets) and some simple principles were crying out to be shared. I’’m delighted to say that the response has been brilliant. ‘The Art of Being Brilliant’ has reached a global audience and I’m working on book 2

2. What led you to undertaking studies in positive psychology?

I studies ‘Psychology’ at Uni. and it was interesting, but always about ill people. I learned about disorders, anxiety and depression. And then I came across the relatively new field of ‘Positive Psychology’ which was pitched at the opposite end of the spectrum. And, bizarre as it sounds, we’d never really studied happy people. And that piqued my interest. I noticed that too many people were in a default whinge/moan/pessimistic mindset. Why is that? And wouldn’t it be cool to find people who were different? And find out what they were doing?

So I did!

3. You are working on a PhD in “Happiness” – what topic specifically is your PhD looking at?

I’m looking at what I call ‘flourishing’. In a nut shell, I’ve been studying people who are happy and upbeat and (and this is important) whom other people are noticing are more happy and upbeat. In short, those who shine and who impact positively on those around them

And my research is targeted at those who are working in the public sector. I thought this would be particularly challenging, in times of re-structuring, low morale and budget cuts. Yet, some people remain happy and upbeat!

4. If you could change the world in any way you wanted what 3 things would you change?

Just 1 thing. I’d change education. There aren’t enough words in this article that allow me to do justice to the changes I’d make. Suffice to say, I’d pretty much tear up the current model and start again. We’re preparing children for a world that no longer exists!

5.  Who is the most inspiring person you have ever met and why?

Crikey! Good question!

I’ve been fortunate to meet a good selection of awesome people. I’d better go for my colleague and co-author, the fabulous Mr Andy Whittaker (cos he’ll probably read this!). He’s the nicest bloke on the planet and has really inspired me by proving that when you play to your strengths, anything’s possible

6.  How do you spread your message of happiness?

We have a really cool workshop called ‘The Art of Being Brilliant’. Plus various books and CDs. But the best way to spread the message is to take it into schools and train kids to deliver it across their community

7.  Tell me about your 2%ers event?

A ‘2%er’ is my shorthand way of describing the people I’ve been studying. It isn’t actually scientifically correct but is merely meant to imply that happy, positive, upbeat people are a minority group. 2%ers are people who are significantly happier than average

And we have gatherings of 2%ers. Basically we cram 400 happy people into a room and deliver some workshops for them. It gives me a chance to try out some new material on a friendly audience

8. I believe we should all do something every day to make us feel proud. (Cue Heather Small) What are you most proud of?

My family. The biggest results I’ve had with ‘positive psychology’ have been at home

9. What has been you greatest life lesson to date?

The biggest discovery of my PhD (and the most obvious!) is that 2%ers actively and consciously choose to be positive. I describe this as common sense but not common practice. I also describe it as simple but not easy (there’s a very important difference!)

10. Tell me about your involvement with schools and why you choose to work with them?

We delivered ‘The Art of Being Brilliant’ in businesses for a number of years before we twigged that teachers and children need these messages too! So we re-jigged the content and we now deliver what we call our ‘embedded model’, where we take a year group through the messages and task them with designing their own curriculum that they take across school (and the wider community). Young people get such a hard time in the press and this is an attempt to redress the balance by getting teenagers to inspire their communities.

Quite simply, the earlier you can embed positivity and happiness in your life, the better your life chances

And we choose to deliver in schools because it’s absolutely the right thing to do! In fact our business model is set up in such a way that we charge quite hefty fees to deliver in businesses and we use the surplus to subsidise our work in schools.

 

11.  Is it easier to teach happiness to young people or adults? In other words can you teach old dogs new happiness tricks?

Our’s is an incredibly simple message. Adults get it. And younger children (age 9 to 12) get it

Teenagers are more of an issue. Quite often, we find that teens are already indoctrinated into negative mind-sets and some of them can be very difficult to work with. Invariably, these habits have been learned from home. Sadly, if you’re a British teenager, it’s not cool to be your best self. We are working hard to change this culture in the schools that invite us in.

12. Who or what is the greatest source of happiness in your life?

My children

13. Which 3 books would you take to a desert island?

Charlie & the Chocolate Factory (Roal Dahl)

Success Intelligence (Robert Holden)

‘Spy Dog’ (by me…and I’d take this book along just to remind myself that I can write books)

14. Who is the happiest person you have ever met and what have you learned from him/her?

In 2005, I interviewed Britain’s happiest man. Not only did he put his happiness down to a conscious choice. He also made that choice after a terrible tragedy when many people would have given up on life. We hear so much about ‘post traumatic stress disorder’. This guy showed that adversity can make you stronger (which is called ‘post traumatic growth’, btw). You don’t have to dwell on bad stuff.

15. When was the last time you experienced an explosion of joy (controlled or otherwise)?

I was driving home from doing a talk. And the night sky was filled with stars. I pulled the car over, got out and gazed at the sky. I can’t never remember seeing so many stars! And that got me thinking that here am I, a flickering dot of life on a tiny rock in the solar system. How cool is that!

16. Can you remember the happiest moment of your life and what made you happy?

Sounds corny, but I reckon the happiest moment of my life was when my wife and newborn daughter came home from hospital. Sophie was premature so things were a bit dicey for a while. Getting my girls home was a huge relief and an immense source of happiness that has lasted 18 years.

17. Have you tried any of the Happiness Experiments? What was your experience?

We’re just recording a series where we experience a range of ‘happiness remedies’ and report back. So watch this space. We’re experimenting with meditation, getting drunk, being grateful, watching a funny film, walking in the countryside, doing random kindness, etc. It’s meant to be light-hearted reporting but with a serious message

18.  Do you have any Happiness Experiments of your own to recommend? 

I tend to give a ‘top tip’ that I found useful when re-training myself to be more positive. Wake up in the morning being really grateful that you haven’t got toothache. Genuinely appreciate it. It works really well on cold, dark winter mornings. Or, on a bigger scale, appreciate that your kidneys are working and your heart’s still beating. And get out of bed like you mean it! (I think this is a twist on the often-quoted ‘attitude of gratitude’)

19.  The aim of The Happiness Experiment blog is to show people ways to live a happier and more meaningful life.  What brings meaning to your life?

For me, meaning comes from having goals that connect with the world. So to continue to grow ‘The Art of Being Brilliant’ and to get it embedded in the school curriculum, gives me a very strong sense of purpose and meaning. Because it means more and more young people will get to connect with being their best selves. That means I can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning and I have more energy than I’ve ever had in my life

20. If I were to ask you to think about “a life worth living”? What constitutes a life worth living for you?

One in which I feel loved. And one in which I feel I’m adding some value. I rather like this story from our book…

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 15th May 2013

Sustainability and joy: the power of fun can transform the corporate world

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JOY

Joy drinks pure water. She has sat with the dying and attended many births. She denies nothing. She is in love with life, all of it, the sun and the rain and the rainbow. She rides horses at Half Moon Bay under the October moon. She climbs mountains. She sings in the hills. She jumps from the hot spring to the cold stream without hesitation.

Although Joy is spontaneous, she is immensely patient. She does not need to rush. She know there are obstacles on every path and that every moment is the perfect moment. She is not concerned with success or failure or how to make things permanent.

At times Joy is elusive – she seems to disappear even as we approach her.  I see her standing on a ridge covered with oak trees, and suddenly the distance between us feels enormous.  I am overwhelmed and wonder if the effort to reach her is worth it.  Yet she waits for us.  Her desire to walk with us is as great as our longing to accompany her.

This delightful description comes from a gem of a book, called The Book of Qualities by J. Ruth Gendler, which I recently discovered thanks to a recommendation by Brené Brown. 

This theme of joy was developed further in this interesting article below by Jo Confino which was published in The Guardian on 8th May 2013.  Joy should be with us in all aspects of our life, particularly at work as we spend so many of our waking hours engaged in some form of work activity. Focusing on our happiness at work rather than on the next salary increase or the promotion we are gaining might be a better way to bring more joy in to our working lives.

 

Sustainability and joy: the power of fun can transform the corporate world

Only when we integrate making money with a sense of purpose and fun can business move to a more sustainable footing.

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A healthy dose of joy could transform the corporate sector and put it on a more sustainable footing. Photograph: Tim Gainey/Alamy

Do you ever have the feeling that we spend our lives trying to learn the same lessons over and over again? We hope always to find answers but perhaps a better approach is to ask more profound questions.

I mention this because of a story told to me at a meeting of 300 CEOs and senior executives at the Brainstorm Green conference in Laguna Niguel, California.

It was not a story about energy efficiency, nor was it a story about how to convince your chief financial officer to invest in greener technology. Instead it was about a chief executive who did not know how to incorporate fun into his work.

It goes like this. The businessman was having an interview for a senior position and told the CEO he had three main criteria for taking any post: it had to have a purpose, it had to be fairly paid and it had to be fun.

The feedback he received was that the CEO was comfortable with the first two but just could not get his head around what the third one meant. Quite understandably, the gentleman in question did not take the job, and learnt a year later that the CEO had died at the age of 58.

Are we having fun?

And therein lies a question we could all do with asking; are we having fun and does it matter?

My own feeling is that the adrenaline of making money and beating the competition can seem fun for a while, but like any drug it wears off over time and then people need a bigger dose to try to recapture the original thrill. At its worst, this pattern can end in naked greed and disaster, as we have seen in the financial markets.

By contrast, the ability to have fun is a gift of nature that is like a perfect dynamo. It keeps replenishing itself and never diminishes in its intensity.

More than that, while competition for its own sake is always a great taker, joy is a generous giver and people find it infectious, as long as they are not threatened by it.

This is all obvious when we take a moment to stop and think, but in the hurly burly of life, we forget it. Go into a meeting that includes one person who is sour and negative and the energy of the meeting sinks like a soufflé taken out of the oven before its time. Go into the same meeting where someone is emanating the spirit of joy, and everyone benefits, with the result that space and possibilities open up.

Integrating a sense of joy

I have to say that the sustainability practitioners I meet who are taking the most risks and doing the most to transform their businesses are people who are able to integrate that sense of joy into their work. In fact it is the very feeling of joy that allows them to wake up every day with the knowledge of impending environmental and social catastrophe and still come to work with a cheerful demeanour.

I remember many, many years ago being shocked when an executive coach told me that business leaders become increasingly isolated and lonely as they move up the corporate ladder. No wonder they find it difficult to think deeply beyond shareholder value to the role of business in society. Because they feel trussed up in the straitjacket of their work lives, some love nothing more than bringing in outsiders who are able to inspire and challenge them in new ways.

I have written before about the power of epiphanies to create radical change, because those who experience them first hand are freed, even if only for a moment, from the constraints they falsely believed were holding them down like a ball and chain. Second best, however, is being in the company of people who are able to represent that.

At Brainstorm Green, a few people suggested I meet Jib Ellison, who helped to create the Blu Skye consultancy, which concentrates on systems change. He was a prime mover in Walmart’s journey towards being a more sustainable company. What I was told was not that Ellison had the sharpest mind or the greatest ideas, which may or may not be the case, but that CEOs enjoyed his company.

At its heart, joyous people help to create a feeling of trust. They tend to be better collaborators because they like nothing better than finding common solutions, and don’t feel they have to go into personal sacrifice to achieve them.

Collaboration and competition

There may be lots of people who dismiss what I am writing as naïve. In fact, several people have said to me in recent weeks that collaborating is all well and good, but competition is what really drives innovation and technological advances. But those critics are looking to mark a spot on a spectrum that we have already moved beyond.

Collaboration and competition can be happy bedfellows, if you feel comfortable with both. Those people who bring joy to their work do not see them as polar opposites.

A couple of years ago I attended a meeting at the Houses of Parliament between the Zen Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hanh and a group of MPs, members of the House of Lords and others. One member of parliament said that political parties thrived on being competitive and in opposition and asked Thay, as he is known, about the Buddhist view of competition. Thay looked at him and asked the simplest of questions: “Does it make you happy?” The ensuing silence spoke volumes.

One of the more popular stories on the Guardian last year was about a palliative nurse who asked all those dying in her hospice what their greatest regrets were. The top five included: “I spent too much time in the office” and “I wish that I had let myself be happier,” which translated into the fact that they had pretended to be content “when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again”.

There was one, however, which particularly caught my eye because it had a certain subtlety, which made it all the more potent. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.

One of the reasons society gets itself into a mess is because certain ideas or thoughts become so embedded in a culture that those who come along later feel they have no choice but to fit in, for fear of being marginalised.

So may I humbly suggest taking a small chunk out of your work day, sitting quietly and asking yourself a question; “How well am I doing at bringing more joy into my life?” Better now than on your deathbed.

This article by Jo Confino was published in Guardian Professional on 8th May 2013

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 10th May 2013

 

Enjoy the simple pleasures in life

Pleasure

Pleasure is wild and sweet. She likes purple flowers. She loves the sun and the wind and the night sky. She carries a silver bowl full of liquid moonlight.  She has a cat named Midnight with stars on his paws.

Many people mistrust Pleasure and even more misunderstand her. For a long time I could hardly stand to be in the same room with her. I went to sleep early to avoid her.  I thought she was a gossip and a flirt and she drank too much. In school we learned that she was dangerous and I was sure that she would distract me from my work.  I didn’t realise she could nurture me.

As I have changed, Pleasure has changed.  I have learned to value her friendship.

This delightful description comes from a gem of a book,  called The Book of Qualities by J. Ruth Gendler, which I recently discovered thanks to a recommendation by Brené Brown.  We often deny ourselves the small simple pleasures in life which could give us a quick happiness boost if we gave ourselves permission to have some fun on a regular basis.  This video clip by Gretchen Rubin is a great introduction to Happiness Experiment No 16: Find more ways to introduce small moments of pleasure in your life.

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 9th May 2013

 

 

 

 

 

Do animals experience happiness?

As the owner of an irrepressibly happy red setter called Loulou, I have always been convinced that animals can both experience and spread happiness but I did not give the matter any further thought until I read this article on The Smile Epidemic blog.  It makes interesting reading and also reminded me of the importance of connection which is what Happiness Experiment No 15 is all about.  Have a read of the article and decide whether you agree.

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Do animals experience happiness?

We know that humans can experience happiness and most of us have been lucky enough to understand that feeling first hand. It is commonly understood that there are three processes to experience emotion:

  1. A physiological response to a certain stimulus
  2. An outward expression of emotion and
  3. An analysis of that emotion

Because this is our common scientific understanding of how one experiences emotion, we also gauge the experience of happiness by the same measure. This is where the debate comes in regarding an animals capability of experiencing emotion, and more specifically that of happiness.

There are research and test studies that demonstrate animals experience fear and mourning, so why not happiness too?
For instance, a graylag goose who has lost their partner demonstrates all the same symptoms of a young child in terms of experiencing grief, i.e: eyes sinking deep into their sockets, an overall drooping experience, literal head hanging, tears. Sea lion’s, dolphins, and elephants who’ve had to watch their children or partner being killed will cry and scream out for help, and will try to revive them afterward.

This similar process has been observed within different species in the moments before they have accepted that their friend, parent, child or spouse is deceased. It is after the realization that death has occurred, that the animals will move into the mourning process. According to John Bowlby (Developmental Psychologist), some animals will even take part in funeral rituals such as putting together shrines to pay tribute to the one they are missing, or burying the deceased animal (Ex. elephants, gorilla’s, wolves, and foxes).

Why do animals grieve and why do we see grief in different species of animals? It’s been suggested that grief reactions may allow for the reshuffling of status relationships or the filling the reproductive vacancy left by the deceased, or for fostering continuity of the group. Some theorize that perhaps mourning strengthens social bonds among the survivors who band together to pay their last respects. This may enhance group cohesion at a time when it’s likely to be weakened [Source: Psychology Today].

We also know that animals can experience fear, distress and pain. The most commonly observed instance of this is within our very own food industry. The raising of livestock to then utilize them as a source of food is a common environment in which animals are clearly experiencing fear, distress and pain throughout the process. So much, in fact, that the American Meat Institute (AMI) is implementing new procedures to render livestock brain dead before they are to be slaughtered to reduce the amount of distress and pain experienced. This reflects a rather humane view of our four-legged companions: that animals, like humans, can feel fear and pain. This is also obvious in the wild; after all, fear is a function of survival. The idea that animals can feel pain has also been proven through clinical tests, like teaching animals to fear their food supply through electric shocks, as Psychologist B.F. Skinner managed to do.

We understand and have observed animals experiencing emotions such as pain, fear, and grief; so with that in mind, it is likely that animals ought to be capable of experiencing happiness as well, right?. The main issue here comes in the distinction between fear and happiness.

Fear is an emotion that generally produces observable behavior. A field mouse will flee from the shadow of a hawk flying overhead, for example. Happiness, however, is much more subjective, and produces less distinctly discernable behavior. What’s more, there’s no reason for happiness to exist in the animal kingdom, since all necessary behavior is considered to serve as some form of survival mechanism.

But what, exactly is the problem? Anyone who’s been around a dog wagging its tail or a cat purring contentedly can attest that animals feel happiness. Not so fast, say detractors. They would contend that this concept is an example of anthropomorphizing. To put it simply, they say, animals aren’t people, so humans shouldn’t treat them as such.

Anthropomorphizing is the act of attributing human features or behaviours to that of animals, thereby often misinterpreting their reactions or behaviours for the emotion of happiness.

This may be true, however, one argument in support of animal happiness is the fact that animals appear to have neurological processes similar to that of humans. Laboratory drug trials using mice have shown that they respond to the same compounds that alleviate emotional instability like depression in humans [Source: Bekoff and Goodall]. What’s more, to test an antidepressant’s effectiveness, mice are actually made depressed through bullying from other mice. If a mouse can feel depressed, then is it out of the realm of possibility that it can feel happiness as well?

Happiness, from a strictly biological standpoint, is a form of pleasure. Why is pleasure so important biologically? We humans experience pleasure as a means of teaching us to repeat behaviors that will help ensure our survival and the survival of our species. Eating food can elicit feelings of contentment or other forms of pleasure by triggering the release of hormones like endorphins. So, humans learn to eat — which helps ensure survival — because it feels good. The same goes for ‘afternoon delight’ which helps ensures the survival of the species through reproduction.

Proponents of the animal happiness idea argue that this evolutionary mechanism should be present in any animal with a conscious mind [Source: Macmillan]. Since we have proven animals experience aversive emotions like fear; logic follows that they should also be able to experience pleasurable feelings like happiness.

Have you ever engaged with an animal, whether it be your pet, someone else’s, or an animal outdoors or in the wild? Have you witnessed their happiness, have you felt the warmth of the cuddles, the purring, the playfulness and seemingly happy nature of them?

So although we may not be able to prove that animals are experiencing happiness with strong scientific proof, there are some theories that support the argument that they do.

We happen to think that animals do experience genuine happiness and pleasure, and want to know what do you think? Do you believe that animals do in fact,  experience happiness?

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 8th May 2103

Six Ways to Stop Worrying and Find Work You Love

How To Find Fulfilling Work

Most of us spend the majority of our day at work so it is crucially important that the work that we do makes us feel happy and fullfilled.  This article by Roman Krznaric from Yes magazine, which was originally published in The Huffington Post, looks at 6 ways to stop worrying about what to do to find a fulfilling job and some simple steps we can take to improve our sense of fulfillment at work.  Romans has also written a book on the subject entitled How to Find Fulfilling Work if you would like to read about this topic more.

 

 

Six Ways to Stop Worrying and Find Work You Love

Quitting work that leaves you unfulfilled requires a lot of courage. Here are six things you can do to get yourself ready to take the plunge.
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The idea of fulfilling work—a job that reflects our passions, talents and values—is a modern invention. Open Dr. Johnson’s celebrated Dictionary, published in 1755, and the word “fulfilment” doesn’t even appear. But today our expectations are higher, which helps explain why job satisfaction has declined to a record low of 47 percent in the U.S., and is even lower in Europe.

Instead of thinking then acting, we should act first and reflect later by trying out jobs in the real world.

If you count yourself amongst those who are unhappy in their job, or at least have that occasional niggling feeling that your work and self are out of alignment, how are you supposed to go about finding a meaningful career? What does it take to overcome the fear of change and negotiate the labyrinth of choices, especially in tough economic times?

Here are six pieces of essential wisdom drawn from some of the best brains in the field.

1. Confusion is perfectly normal

First, a consoling thought: being confused about career choice is perfectly normal and utterly understandable. In the pre-industrial period there were around thirty standard trades—you might decide to be a blacksmith or a barrel-maker—but now career websites list over 12,000 different jobs. The result? We can become so anxious about making the wrong choice that we end up making no choice at all, staying in jobs that we have long grown out of. Psychologist Barry Schwartz calls this the “paradox of choice”: too many options can lead to decision paralysis, and we are like rabbits caught in the headlights.

Then add to this our built-in aversion to risk. Human beings tend to exaggerate everything that could possibly go wrong, or as Nobel Prize winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman says, “we hate losing twice as much as we love winning,” whether at the casino table or when making career choices. So our brains are not well calibrated for daring to change profession. We need to recognize that confusion is natural, and get ready to move beyond it.

2. Beware of personality tests

Many people are enticed by personality tests, which claim to be able to assess your character, and then point you towards a job that is just right for you. It’s a reassuring idea, but the evidence for their usefulness is flimsy. Take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, the world’s most popular psychometric test, which places you in one of sixteen personality types. Despite its ubiquity, the Myers-Briggs has been widely criticised by professional psychologists for over three decades, partly due to its lack of reliability. If you retake the test after five weeks, there is around a 50 percent chance that you will be placed into a different personality category than you were the first time.

Moreover, according to Marshall University psychologist David Pittenger, there is “ no evidence to show a positive relation between [a person’s Myers-Briggs] type and success within an occupation…nor is there any data to suggest that specific types are more satisfied within specific occupations than are other types.” He advises “extreme caution in its application as a counselling tool.”

So don’t let any anyone tell you what you can and can’t be on the basis of a personality pigeon-hole they want to put you in.

3. Aim to be a wide achiever, not a high achiever

For over a century, Western culture has been telling us that the best way to use our talents and be successful is to specialize and become a high achiever, an expert in a narrow field—say a corporate tax accountant or an anesthetist.

But an increasing number of people feel that this approach fails to cultivate the many sides of who they are. For them, it makes more sense to embrace the idea of being a “wide achiever” rather than a high achiever. Take inspiration from Renaissance generalists like Leonardo da Vinci, who would paint one day, then do some mechanical engineering, followed by a few anatomy experiments on the weekend.

Today this is called being a “portfolio worker,” doing several jobs simultaneously and often freelance. Management thinker Charles Handy says this is not just a good way of spreading risk in an insecure job market, but is an extraordinary opportunity made possible by the rise of opportunities for flexible work: “For the first time in the human experience, we have a chance to shape our work to suit the way we live instead of our lives to fit our work. We would be mad to miss the chance.”

Ask yourself this: What would being a wide achiever encompass for me?

4. Find where you values and talents meet

The wisest single piece of career advice was proffered 2,500 years ago when Aristotle declared, “Where the needs of the world and your talents cross, there lies your vocation.” And he would surely endorse contemporary research findings showing that those pursuing money and status are unlikely to feel fulfilled: the Mercer Global Engagement Scale places “base pay” as only number seven out of 12 factors predicting job satisfaction.

The best alternative, says Harvard’s Howard Gardner, is to find an ethical career, focused on values and issues that matter to you, and which also allows you to do what you’re really good at. That might sound like a luxury when there are long lines at job centers. But consider that in the 34 countries of the Organization for Economic Co-Operation and Development, the social enterprise sector, in which organizations strive not only to make profits but also to improve social and environmental conditions,is growing 250 percent faster than the rest of the economy.

So imagine yourself in three parallel universes, in each of which you can spend next year trying a job in which your talents meet the needs of the world. What three jobs would you be excited to try?

5. Act first, reflect later

The biggest mistake people make when changing careers is to follow the traditional “plan then implement” model. You draw up lists of personal strengths, weaknesses, and ambitions, then match your profile to particular professions; at that point you start sending out applications. But there’s a problem: it typically doesn’t work. You might find a new job, but despite your expectations, it is unlikely to be fulfilling.

Ask successful career changers how to overcome the fear and most say that in the end you have to stop thinking and just do it.

We need to turn this model on its head. As I explain in thisvideo, instead of thinking then acting, we should act first and reflect later by trying out jobs in the real world, for example by shadowing, interning, or volunteering, testing out careers through experiential learning. Laura van Bouchout gave herself the thirtieth birthday present of spending a whole year trying thirty different jobs—a kind of “radical sabbatical.” She was manager of a cat hotel, then shadowed an Member of the European Parliament, and found that working in advertising was unexpectedly exhilarating.

But don’t think that you have to resign on Monday morning to try this. Rather, you can pursue “branching projects”—what organisational behaviour expert Herminia Ibarra calls “temporary assignments”—on the side of your existing job. Disenchanted with banking? Then try teaching yoga or doing freelance web design on the weekends. Such small experiments can give you the courage to make big—and well-informed—changes.

Challenge yourself: What is your first branching project going to be? And what is the very first step you can take towards making it happen?

6. Discover a little madness

Changing careers is a frightening prospect: of those who want to leave their jobs, around half are too afraid to take the plunge. But ultimately, there is no avoiding the fact that it is a risk.

Ask successful career changers how to overcome the fear and most say the same thing: in the end you have to stop thinking and just do it. That may be why nearly all cultures have recognized that to live a meaningful and vibrant existence, we need to take some chances—or else we might end up looking back on our lives with regret.

“Carpe diem,” advised the Roman poet Horace: seize the day before it is too late. “If not now, when?” said the rabbinical sage Hillel the Elder. Personally, I like the way Zorba the Greek puts it: “A man needs a little madness, or else he never dares to cut the rope and be free.”

It is only by treating our working lives as an ongoing experiment that we will be able to find a job that is big enough for our spirits.

Roman Krznaric speaking at The School of Life

Roman Krznaric is the author of How to Find Fulfilling Work, published by Picador on April 23, and teaches courses on career change at The School of Life. His website is www.romankrznaric.com.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 7th May 2013

Happiness at any age: Mattering never stops mattering whatever your age

This article from The Good Life Blog in Pyschology Today was written by Christopher Peterson, who was a professor of psychology and organizational studies and former director of clinical training.at the University of Michigan.  He held the appointment of Arthur F. Thurnau Professor, in recognition of his contributions to teaching. Peterson was among the 100 most widely cited psychologists in the world. He died at a tragically young age last year and according to all who knew him he mattered a lot to many people.  His book Pursuing the Good Life: 100 Reflections in Positive Psychology which is a compilation of his articles  from The Good Life Blog in Pyschology Today is well worth reading.

How Old Is Old?

Mattering never stops mattering.

 

Published on May 30, 2011 by Christopher Peterson, Ph.D. in The Good Life

I hope I die before I get old.

- “My Generation” by The Who (1965)

I recently led a workshop for mental health professionals, and in the ensuing question and answer period, someone referred to 60-year-old adults as old. Given that I am recently on the other side of sixty, I was taken aback and immediately protested. “No, no, no – sixty is middle-aged,” I said. Indeed, for the past few decades, I have always described middle-aged as however old I happen to be, plus or minus five years.

Our exchange was light-hearted, but there are some interesting issues that it highlights. Given that the populations in most industrialized nations are aging and given trends toward increased longevity in these nations, the question “How old is old?” deserves to be addressed with more than banter.

By a coincidence, right after the workshop, I heard a BBC radio show that addressed precisely the question “How old is old?” by discussing recent survey results from different nations (e.g., The Nielsen Company, 2011). People of course differ in how they answer this question, and not surprisingly, the younger someone is, the younger he or she sees “old” to be. Furthermore, about one third of those from “older” nations say that one only becomes “old” if over 80 years of age, whereas fewer than 1% of those from “younger” nations use 80 years of age as the cutoff. I guess I’ll stay put in the United States for the duration!

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Developmental psychologists have long made distinctions among life stages based on age. For example:

 

• Infancy (birth to 2 years)

• Chikdhood (3-12 years)

• Adolescence(13-19 years)

• Young adulthood (20-29 years)

• Adulthood (30-39 years)

• Middle Age (40-54 years)

• Old age (55+ years)

This is just one scheme, and many others exist. Some theorists add in new stages (e.g., tweens, the old old), and others expand the age ranges of one or more of these stages (e.g., if one pursues higher education, adolescence arguably stretches far into one’s twenties or even one’s thirties). There are no consensual answers, of course, because identifying stages of life in terms of chronological age tries to make categories out of a continuum and moreover ignores individual psychological differences among those of the same chronological age. We all know “young” sixty-year olds, and “old” twenty-year olds.

That said, changes with age can and do occur – biological, psychological, and social – making it reasonable to offer at least rough generalizations across the lifespan. “Act your age!” is an admonition based on assumptions that have some grounding in chronological reality. So, we expect adults to be more responsible than children, if only because adulthood is when most people are working and raising children of their own.

However, we should also recognize that “old” is a shifting and fuzzy designation. We should be cautious – as individuals or as a society – in imposing a uniform cutoff on ourselves or others with respect to what one can or should do when of a certain age.

And perhaps the positive psychology take home message of this entry is that what may matter is not “how old is old” but rather how one feels about being “old” (or middle-aged or young). An important line of research by Becca Levy at Yale University shows that younger adults with more positive attitudes toward aging are healthier when they do become older adults, even when the usual risk factors for poor heath are statistically controlled.

It is a cliché to observe that the contemporary US is a youth-oriented culture, and I exemplified this attitude with the anecdote that began this essay. As a 60-year old, I do not want to be regarded as “old” because our society does not take older people seriously. Until society changes, perhaps I should change myself and recognize that the best way to be taken seriously, regardless of one’s chronological age, is to matter to others. The way one matters will differ as a function of age, of course, but mattering never stops mattering.

References

Levy, B.R., Slade, M. D., & Kasl, S. V. (2002). Longitudinal benefit of positive self-perceptions of aging on functioning health. Journal of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences, 57, 409-417.

Levy, B. R., Slade, M. D., Kunkel, S. R., and Kasl, S. V. (2002). Longevity increased by positive self-perceptions of aging. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83, 261-270.

Levy, B. R., Zonderman, A. B., Slade, M. D., & Ferrucci, L. (2009). Age stereotypes held earlier in life predict cardiovascular events in later Life.Psychological Science, 20, 296-298.

The Nielsen Company (2011). The global impact of an aging world. New York: author.

 

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 6th May 2013

 

 

 

Happiness at any age: Why do we age and what we can do to avoid it?

If we can be happy at any age is it worthwhile trying to avoid aging?  Is aging something we can simply fix? Aubrey de Grey makes an impassioned plea for ending the aging process. Watch his TED talk and decide if you agree with his provocative stance on aging.

Aubrey de Grey: A roadmap to end aging

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 6th May 2013

 

 

 

 

Happiness at any age: Older people are happier

Want to live to a ripe old age?  Having a positive outlook on life maybe the key to doing just that. The article below from CBS News looks at how optimism can lead to longevity.  The TEDxWomen talk below by psychologist Laura Carstensen shows that not only does being optimistic make you live longer, but research shows that you also become happier and more content as you get older and are likely to have a more positive outlook on the world.  Living to an old age does not mean that your quality of life has to diminish, on the contrary it is likely to increase.  Enjoy the article and the video and let me know what you think.

 

Researchers discover optimism may lead to longevity

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(CBS News) The secret to a long life may be something as simple as a sunny disposition.

In a study published in the journal Aging on May 21, researchers surveyed people who were over the age of 95 and found that most of them had positive personality traits, making them upbeat and relaxed about life. That suggests personality traits such optimism could be part of the longevity genes mix, they said.

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“When I started working with centenarians, I thought we’d find that they survived so long in part because they were mean and ornery,” Dr. Nir Barzila, the Ingeborg and Ira Leon Rennert Chair of Aging Research, and director of Einstein’s Institute for Aging Research, said in the press release. “But when we assessed the personalities of these 243 centenarians, we found qualities that clearly reflect a positive attitude towards life. Most were outgoing, optimistic and easygoing. They considered laughter an important part of life and had a large social network. They expressed emotions openly rather than bottling them up.”

The study is part of Albert Einstein College of Medicine’s Longevity Genes Project, which specifically looks at aging. Over 500 Ashkenazi Jews over the age of 95 along with 700 of their offspring have been involved in the project.

According to the researchers, approximately 53,000 people in the U.S. are over 100 years old, which accounts for 0.2 percent of the population. But, the number of people reaching 100 from America has increased 8 percent per year.

For this particular study, 243 Ashkenazi (Eastern European) Jews over the age of 95 were given a 98-point questionnaire that specifically looked at personality traits. Three-fourths of the group were women, and the average age was 97.6 years old. Since they were all the same ethnicity, it allowed researchers to compare results from a similar genetic pool.

What scientists found out was that many of the near-centenarians were optimistic, easygoing, liked to laughed and were outgoing than introverted. They also were more likely to express their emotions, rather than keeping it all inside.

Dr. Thomas Perls, director of the New England Centenarian Study at Boston University Medical Center, told HealthDay that the results about expressing how they felt were in line with several previous studies. One of Perls studies showed that those who were highly neurotic tended to dwell on things and internalize their stress.

“This can translate into increased risk for cardiovascular disease,” he said to HealthDay. “High extroversion may lead to a better ability to establish social support networks — which is very good for older people – and to be cognitively engaged.”

Perls suggested that activities like physical exercise, yoga, tai chi and laughing a lot could help relieve tension. Also, sleeping was shown to have some beneficial effect.

The good news is that if you aren’t exactly that ray of sunshine, you still have time to change. Barzilai said that some evidence shows that people can change their attitudes between the ages of 70 to 100, and it isn’t exactly know if the subjects were always optimistic their entire lives.

“Nevertheless, our findings suggest that centenarians share particular personality traits and that genetically-based aspects of personality may play an important role in achieving both good health and exceptional longevity,” he said in the press release.

Article originally published in CBS News on 30th May 2012

“When we recognize that we don’t have all the time in the world, we see our priorities most clearly.” Laura Carstensen

 

Laura Carstensen – TEDx Women talk

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 4th May 2013

 

Happiness at any age: Jane Fonda – Life’s third act

The longevity revolution: within this generation, an extra 30 years have been added to our life expectancy — and these years aren’t just a footnote or a pathology. At TEDxWomen, Jane Fonda asks how we can think about this new phase of our lives.  Her TEDx talk looks at the third act of life and asks how can we be happy in the last 30 years of our life.

Less is more: a week of living below the poverty line

This week in support of my husband, and possibly against my better judgement, I decided to spend  5 days living below the poverty line spending just £1 per day on all food and drink.  This challenge to Live below the line has been set up to to support many UK and international charities who focus on helping to make a real change in the lives of the 1.4 billion people, both here and around the world, who are currently living in extreme poverty. I became aware of and hugely inspired by the blog: A Girl Called Jack and decided to take up the challenge for just 5 days.Take a look at Hugh Jackman’s invitation to take up the challenge:

I chose to spend the week living below the line in order to support the work of Progressio, an international development charity which my husband is proud to work for.  There was a part of me which felt that this was a bit of an exercise in “playing at being poor” à la Marie-Antoinette who famously said about the starving masses during the French Revolution “If they can’t eat bread, let them eat cake”.  In all honesty this was probably the part of me who didn’t much fancy the prospect of living on a restricted diet for a week.  The other part of me, who is definitely not as out of touch with reality as Marie Antoinette was, likes a challenge and is accutely aware that those of us who do not live below the poverty line on a permanent basis are very privileged indeed.  I have always believed in the concept of walking a mile in another person’s shoes, in order to understand their lives and motivations so I grasped the challenge despite my initial reluctance.

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So here I am on day 5, just two meals away from a decent breakfast on Saturday morning.  What have I learned from the challenge? I’ve learned a lot actually and much of it is in alignment with what positive psychology teaches us about living a meaningful life:

I have learned to be hugely grateful for what I have and I will really relish the opportunity and the possibility of choosing any food I want to eat in future.

I have learned to show more empathy with people who live in different circumstances to my own.

I have become more aware of the interconnectedness of people and how food choices we make have repercussions for others.

I have reminded myself of the importance of practising acts of kindness for others.

I have become more aware of the simple pleasures in life such as eating home-prepared food.

I have practised mindfulness and savouring which are principles of positive psychology which teach us how to enjoy the moment. (When you can only afford one carrot or one egg a day you really enjoy them.)

I have had to fall back on using my top strengths (creativity is one of mine) in order to manage on such a small budget.

I have realised that it is much easier and quicker to change a habit that I had previously thought.

What have I learned about myself?

I have realised that our household is hugely wasteful of food and this needs to change.

In order to survive on a tight budget you need to be really well organised and highly creative and these are two great skills to practice.

We need to plan our menus and food purchases more in order to cut down on waste. To use a wonderful acronym I came across on Twitter via Philippa Perry yesterday: PPPPPPP. ( Proper Pre-Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance) @Philippa-Perry

I have decided to rediscover the joys and benefits of cheap home made food next week by making my own bread, growing my own bean sprouts and drying my own fruits. I may even knit my own muesli if I’m feeling particularly creative……

I made a last minute decision to join the live below the line campaign and admittedly wasn’t as organised as I could have been for the 5 days.  This meant that my diet this week has lacked variety and that has been the toughest challenge.  Many people around the world and in the UK face a monotonous diet on a regular basis because that is all this is available to them.  This week may have been challenging but I didn’t die, I had 3 meals a day and I had plenty of clean water to drink. That’s more than can be said for the 1.4 billion people around the world who don’t have the ability to make the same choices I can.  Was I crazy to take up this challenge?  Probably not. I have learned a huge amount this week and here’s the crazy part: I have decided to continue the challenge!  I have decided to #liveslightlyabovetheline for the next month adding £1 a week to my weekly budget until I reach a point where I believe my diet is both healthy and sustainable for the planet.  I am looking forward to more colour in my diet next week and £2 per day for 5 days will feel like absolute luxury.  I think I know of 1.4 billion people to whom £2 per day would feel like absolute luxury too and that is why is has been important to live below the line this week.  If you didn’t join in the challenge this week, it’s not too late you can do this on any 5 days you choose.  It’s a great experience and it’s never too late to make a difference. Also blueberries for breakfast on a Saturday will never taste the same again.

Posted by Shona Lockhart on 3rd May 2013